The forbidden contextual info
There are just some conversations that are dependent on contextual information to really make sense. However, there are also times when sharing that contextual information is a bit taboo. Maybe it's info about your sex life, religious beliefs or other personal happenings. The most obvious that comes to mind is money.
We sometimes find ourselves not asking friends to do something because it might not be in their budget and we're not sure they would say that if it were the case. Rather than have the "elephant" in the room, we just avoid the subject. Vise versa, it can be difficult to have a conversations about life decisions (major purchases, stay-at-home parenting, vacations, retirement contributions) that are affected by money when people really have no idea what we make. I hate to leave people to assumptions but I also would not want to ask someone else this personal information.
I'm not advocating that I want to announce to the world what I make, but just noting that it is hard to have some conversations without all the information.
I'm willing to share alot for the sake of personal conversations but I do draw some lines.
That's all...and I have no idea if this post made any sense.
We sometimes find ourselves not asking friends to do something because it might not be in their budget and we're not sure they would say that if it were the case. Rather than have the "elephant" in the room, we just avoid the subject. Vise versa, it can be difficult to have a conversations about life decisions (major purchases, stay-at-home parenting, vacations, retirement contributions) that are affected by money when people really have no idea what we make. I hate to leave people to assumptions but I also would not want to ask someone else this personal information.
I'm not advocating that I want to announce to the world what I make, but just noting that it is hard to have some conversations without all the information.
I'm willing to share alot for the sake of personal conversations but I do draw some lines.
That's all...and I have no idea if this post made any sense.
posted by MJ at
8:33 AM
1 Comments:
haha, makes sense to me....as in, i'd love to know what you make and you'd love to know what i make, but in the end wouldn't we just end up feeling awkward? all i know is i'm glad i am glad that our friendship isn't based on finances! it's more fun when it's not about the money anyway!
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badger girl, At
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