The quarter-life crisis
Rain, rain, go away. I've lost track of how many days in a row it has been raining and cold, but I'm clearly ready for some sunshine! I heard someone joking yesterday about SAD in May but that's not such a distant possibility. It would be nice to get some time to work in the flower beds and garden but I suppose we needed some rain too. I bought a new pair of sunglasses as a treat to myself over a week ago and have not yet been able to wear them because it hasn't been sunny. I want some SUN!
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A few weeks ago, a friend shared a piece about "the quarter-life crisis" with me, partially because she is going through some hard decisions herself. After reading it, I could definitely relate. I have been meaning to post about this for weeks but it has eluded me. A friend from college visited with me on Saturday night and we discussed making life decisions about having children, continuing education and relocating. While we were visiting, these thoughts on the quarter-life crisis came back to me. Then, I received a message from another friend considering a change in career, which involves going back to school. We're all in our 20s.
Changes and decisions are a regular dinner table, bedtime, and walking discussion in my life. My husband and I are both trying to make decisions about so many things - career, kids (well, I guess some things are decided- ready or not), location, etc. I'm happy in my job and we're thrilled to be expecting a baby. However, I think we both (especially in relation to his career) are somewhat unsure of where we are. Perhaps many people our age are looking for the magic answer and although we thought we had things figured out coming out of college, we realize how little we really knew for sure. We worry about things we never imagined and
Rather than continuing to express my own relations to this piece, I'll simply share it. I think you may be amazed at how much it explains about how many of us in our 20s (and maybe even 30s and 40s) are feeling about life. I know I was.
Being Twenty Something
Inspired by: Ditha
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going alone with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared. You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Life is so confusing! If you're confused - you're not alone!
How true! Take care!
****************
A few weeks ago, a friend shared a piece about "the quarter-life crisis" with me, partially because she is going through some hard decisions herself. After reading it, I could definitely relate. I have been meaning to post about this for weeks but it has eluded me. A friend from college visited with me on Saturday night and we discussed making life decisions about having children, continuing education and relocating. While we were visiting, these thoughts on the quarter-life crisis came back to me. Then, I received a message from another friend considering a change in career, which involves going back to school. We're all in our 20s.
Changes and decisions are a regular dinner table, bedtime, and walking discussion in my life. My husband and I are both trying to make decisions about so many things - career, kids (well, I guess some things are decided- ready or not), location, etc. I'm happy in my job and we're thrilled to be expecting a baby. However, I think we both (especially in relation to his career) are somewhat unsure of where we are. Perhaps many people our age are looking for the magic answer and although we thought we had things figured out coming out of college, we realize how little we really knew for sure. We worry about things we never imagined and
Rather than continuing to express my own relations to this piece, I'll simply share it. I think you may be amazed at how much it explains about how many of us in our 20s (and maybe even 30s and 40s) are feeling about life. I know I was.
Being Twenty Something
Inspired by: Ditha
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going alone with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared. You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Life is so confusing! If you're confused - you're not alone!
How true! Take care!
posted by MJ at
12:24 PM
1 Comments:
I just keep praying to God that the mid-life crisis isn't much worse than the 1/4 life crisis! :) GREAT post!
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