Queen of double standards
I'm back from my trip to Florida. While I was there I had dinner with my hubby's parents and sister. I enjoyed seeing them and spending time together. It will be nice to have his sister back in the Midwest before the baby arrives. Although it was a relatively short trip, I missed my husband and remembered why I prefer to travel and share places with him.
However, this loving, mushy feeling didn't last nearly long enough and last night I pulled a MAJOR double standard on him. It was the last night of his summer session I class, corporate finance. He took his exam and then called me to tell me that he was going to grab a drink with some other classmates so he wouldn't be home right away. I didn't say so, but I'm sure he heard in my tone that I was not pleased that he wasn't rushing home to be with me. : ( I've only been home since noon on Tuesday and beyond a walk and a brief dinner together, we each had our own school commitments that night. We haven't spent much time TOGETHER.....really together.
I cleaned up my mood somewhat before he got home last night but this morning I am feeling very remorseful! The reason that we won't be together tonight is that I'm doing something for me. I'm leaving home to attend a cattle show and a reunion of some friends in Missouri. He didn't once ask me to not do this. In fact, I think he encouraged it. I also went to dinner last Friday night, the day before I was leaving for Florida, at a friend's house with a group of other professional woman. I asked him if this was OK before I RSVPed to ensure he was alright with me spending my last night before my travels somewhere else. He replied enthusiastically that he thought it was a great idea.
Now, why didn't I respond with the same enthusiasm last night when he was just going out quickly to celebrate the conclusion of this class? He was still home before I fell asleep. I know that he wants to be with me whenever he can and I need to keep my double standards in check. He grants me the individual freedom I need and although I don't keep him leashed to my hip, I need to be more understanding when he needs to do things for himself too. This queen of double standards needs to put away the crown and grant him the same respect he gives me.
However, this loving, mushy feeling didn't last nearly long enough and last night I pulled a MAJOR double standard on him. It was the last night of his summer session I class, corporate finance. He took his exam and then called me to tell me that he was going to grab a drink with some other classmates so he wouldn't be home right away. I didn't say so, but I'm sure he heard in my tone that I was not pleased that he wasn't rushing home to be with me. : ( I've only been home since noon on Tuesday and beyond a walk and a brief dinner together, we each had our own school commitments that night. We haven't spent much time TOGETHER.....really together.
I cleaned up my mood somewhat before he got home last night but this morning I am feeling very remorseful! The reason that we won't be together tonight is that I'm doing something for me. I'm leaving home to attend a cattle show and a reunion of some friends in Missouri. He didn't once ask me to not do this. In fact, I think he encouraged it. I also went to dinner last Friday night, the day before I was leaving for Florida, at a friend's house with a group of other professional woman. I asked him if this was OK before I RSVPed to ensure he was alright with me spending my last night before my travels somewhere else. He replied enthusiastically that he thought it was a great idea.
Now, why didn't I respond with the same enthusiasm last night when he was just going out quickly to celebrate the conclusion of this class? He was still home before I fell asleep. I know that he wants to be with me whenever he can and I need to keep my double standards in check. He grants me the individual freedom I need and although I don't keep him leashed to my hip, I need to be more understanding when he needs to do things for himself too. This queen of double standards needs to put away the crown and grant him the same respect he gives me.
posted by MJ at
8:13 AM
2 Comments:
Well, it's easy to take. It's the giving that's hard. I find this with Jon and I sometimes. If I'm off doing something, there's nothing wrong with it, because hey, I'm allowed to do stuff without him, right? But when he's doing something without me, I find myself feeling put-out. There's a balance there somewhere....
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Anonymous, At
12:27 PM
When JK is gone, it's all about ME! You gotta just suck it up and enjoy life no matter what !:) YOu can do it!! And - even though boys would never admit it, they need time with the boys as much as we need time with our girlfriends! Can't wait to see ya, bet you're looking so cute with your prego belly!
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badger girl, At
3:20 PM
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